I am unsure if my group is now redundant with comments from Marcus! :)  I will add to Marcus's comments where I can, but so far, I fully agree with what he says and life coaching does result in personal/professional development. 

 

People seems to need focus - and part of this is not beat yourself up if you do get distracted (just another distraction!) but accept the fact you are human and just pull back to the task in hand when you realise and acknowledge you lost focus for a while.   This is generally because what you have is an overwhelming task list which needs breaking down into managable pieces.   

 

Setting a realistic timescale helps i.e. one that you can really achieve - not too early to add too much pressure and not so far away you can lose focus. Then mind and body work together to achieve this 'goal' - it's a natural response so not too much hard work, but a process - sometimes longer than people want or expect.   Most of us already set goals unconciously but coaching encourages concious planning and action.  Booking a holiday and getting there for example - or setting up a business.    We have all done it to achieve anything. 

 

Setting an overall goal usually involves a dream that motivates us enough to make us work for it - based on our personal values and beliefs, and a real desire.  I read that a 'goal is a dream with deadline' (Napolean Hill - a good book "Think and Grow Rich" which is very inspirational for me) and this is what makes it happen.  Then our natual response kick in and we can see things we didnt before, in respect of our goal(s).   Opportunties come along but were probably there before we had the focus or need to see them.  With the acknowledgement of what we need now to get to where we want to be, we can see them and take them up.   

 

The aim is keeping direction I guess - looking at the outcome, the goal is the task in hand to be achieved by a specific date (day, month, year), with the motivation the dream we have and why we want it (our driver/driving force).

 

Self awareness is important to achieve anything, as Marcus says, so we know what we can do and what needs to be developed.

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Well I feel there's more than enough room for these discussions Julie.
For me this is an ideal forum to learn and share from each others experiences.
After meeting Marcus last week, and being really impressed, I'm sure you do offer different services and styles of development.

Can you have too much inspiration?
I thrive on an abundance of knowledge.

Tom has a regular discussion based Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich". So great minds think alike.
http://www.oldhambusinessnetwork.co.uk/video/think-and-grow-rich-pa...

I will definitely follow your discussions, thanks for the post. Goal setting for me is becoming clearer now I'm self-employed. So all guidance is appreciated.

Andy
I am looking at using 2011 as a starting point of setting some real goals up for myself.

One being the 'new year, new you' challenge so would welcome any advice on how to set the goals. My goal being, I want to win :)

I think your right about people setting goals unconciosly all the time, but its only when we focus on them in or concious mind that we can really take control and manipulate our circumstances in a positive way to achieve the goals we set.
Great post Julie!

I'm a great believer in self improvement on any level. From an early age I was involved in a lot of sport which taught me lots about dreaming big and keeping focus. All I knew from the age of about 8 was I wanted to play football for Newcastle United, all I focussed on was the thought of running out at St James Park in front of a capacity crowd. Day in day out that was the single most important thought in my head. At the age of 20 I lived that dream making my debut against Everton. Looking back and being completely honest ... I was never a hugely talented footballer! (there are plenty of people to second that) I just wanted it more than any other kid in Newcastle.

I now have a dream as a businessman and I think about it every day. Most of the time it helps me shape my decisions and with any task I take on I ask myself "will this actually help me achieve my goal?". Sure I get distracted and lose direction at times but my focus always comes back to my dream and what I'm trying to achieve. Even now I get a bit of stick from people saying "he's just that ex-footballer trying to be a businessman" and "aren't all footballers thick?" actually at times the stick I get just makes me laugh. Again I just remember where I'm headed. I try to instill the same ethos in my staff and encourage them to achieve their personal goals.

A highly successful Footballer and someone who I admire a great deal (I wont name drop) once said to me "Dave if you don't know where your going, you ain't gonna get there!"

Again great post Julie keep them coming, and I agree Think & Grow Rich is a fantastic book.

Regards
David
I think this topic will touch on every member. Setting goals and staying focused is important and also difficult (if I may use that word... It's somewhat negative I know so forgive me)
I like Davids comment on how everyday as a young lad he focused on nothing else but running out at St. James' park to a capacity crowd. And he achieved it. Thats what it's all about, not forgetting the reason you go out of your comfort zone everyday. Remembering that uncomfortable thing you are doing is temporary.... Failure is forever!!
The fact is you need to do something everyday to get you where you want to be... If you don't, you're only cheating yourself and delaying the process
I have said on another discussion on here that I'm not a big reader (unfortunately) However I have nearly finished "Taming Tigers" by Jim Lawless. I can highly recommend it.
Jim is the only motivational speaker that I know of that has put his theories into practice to prove that it works. And I don't mean he has a stack of testimonials in the back of the book or on his website, no.. He took on a bet at a session he was doing from a member of the audience and went out to prove it. I'll leave it there just in case you want to read the book.
Suffice to say I've taken a lot of inspiration and focus from that book, something that I haven't achieved from reading others. But it's a matter of which one you relate to most. I have a copy of "Think and grow rich" somewhere in my collection (un-read of course) but I promise I'll pick that up after I've finished this one :o)

What keeps you on track? What motivates you to do what you're doing? Why do you get out of bed in the morning and go out again after that bad day yesterday?
I know what mine is... What's yours?

Regards
Michael


David Beharall (OBN Founder) said:
Great post Julie!

Looking back and being completely honest ... I was never a hugely talented footballer! (there are plenty of people to second that) I just wanted it more than any other kid in Newcastle.

I now have a dream as a businessman

And being completely honest Dave what do you think of yourself as a businessman? Sorry couldn't resist :)
Ha ha! Well an ambitious one!

Neil Hollingsworth said:


David Beharall (OBN Founder) said:
Great post Julie!

Looking back and being completely honest ... I was never a hugely talented footballer! (there are plenty of people to second that) I just wanted it more than any other kid in Newcastle.

I now have a dream as a businessman

And being completely honest Dave what do you think of yourself as a businessman? Sorry couldn't resist :)
The more I think about this, the more I really believe that setting the correct goal is important, of course it is, but there are always going to be people that say... "you will never get that" "never do it" it cant be done" etc...

However, the past, present and I have no doubt the future will all show that these unachievable things... are very achievable, So whether you want to be a millionaire, a movie star, a sports person.... you can achieve it. Do not listen to the people that say you can't.

But you must a) stay focused on your goal at all times, keep it in the conscious mind and make decisions based on it. and b) Do something every day that will help you get closer to that goal.

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